Archive | March 2016

“It’s a fine life”

***Advanced warning: Extremely proud mummy WASO post***

‘Moments to be cherished’ is this weeks’ Adoption Social #WASO theme and has been chosen by their guest editor @Craftikitty and the theme couldn’t have come at a more perfect time.

As some of you, who have been following my recent posts or through Twitter, you will have found it hard not to notice that Buzzbee has been slowly building up to taking on a named role in ‘Oliver’ (I can hear some of you now “Are you insane? How do you expect him to cope with the story line?”

I will confess when he first said that he wanted to audition as an orphan/urchin for the show. I had nearly had kittens and every thought ran through my head as to the impact it may have on him, with this said, he was determined to audition and join his dad this year on stage.

Despite our “anxious” parental instincts screaming at us “this could go very badly wrong”, Bumble and I knew that it would probably cause even more damage to Buzz’s self-esteem if we talked him out of it, and besides, the Buzzbee that was stood in front of us asking to join in, is not the Buzzbee we are used to seeing, and that alone is a moment I will cherish.

Until part of the way into last year, Buzzbee’s self-esteem, self-confidence and self-belief was through the floor. This fire in him was dying out and he was retreating into himself socially and emotionally. He then joined a local youth musical theatre group and I suppose you could the rest is history.

 

I don’t fully understand what it is that is different, when it comes to the group. Although I know that the wonderful ladies who run the group are absolutely amazing with him and his social interaction experience with the children (mostly girls which Buzz always sees as a bonus) is the polar opposite of his experiences while at school. I guess there is a close and almost nurturing atmosphere and everyone attending has their own personal strengths and weaknesses, and each child (and adult) accepts them for who they are. They are not expecting Buzz to conform to their stereotype of how he should be.hat1

Quite honestly, when he first started and for many months (including during the time he was involved with the concerts), Buzz didn’t actively attempt to interact with his peers unless it was what he was supposed to be doing while rehearsing – break times he was kind of hang back from the others.

Okay back to this week. Wednesday evening: “Mummy I did it! I got on the stage and I sang and I danced and I didn’t forget my lines and the audience loved it. I can’t wait to do the other 2 shows this week” – As you may have guessed. Buzzbee was pleased with himself. Oops sorry I should have mentioned. Buzz started of rehearsals for the show content in the knowledge that he was to play a workhouse orphan and one of Fagin’s street urchins, but as rehearsals progressed he was offered the role of ‘Charley Bates’ (the artful dodger’s best friend) which meant he would have to step that little further out of his comfort zone but he did it.

I don’t want to say too much because this week Buzz has written a ‘Moments to cherish’ #WASO post himself (linked here) but it goes without saying that Bumble and I couldn’t have been prouder of him and not just because of the wonderful job he did over the past 3 performances but probably more importantly, for his bravery – getting up on stage in front of nearly 200 people each show and performing his heart out even though backstage he was visibly anxious. He wore unfamiliar clothing and a microphone and managed (just about) to tolerate them. Even when a prop mistake occurred during one of his scenes, instead of letting it throw him, he didn’t bat an eyelid and just took it in his stride, carrying on as if there was nothing wrong.

I better stop before I get carried away any more than I already have done.

But this post is not just about Buzzbee. Waxy has also this week given his little brother (and ourselves) a truly special moment to cherish, and it is something that many of our non-adoptive/fostering friends and family probably take for granted and certainly there have been some who do not understand why we are making such a big fuss about it.

This week has been a very busy week with Birthday celebrations also happening, however on Wednesday, Waxy did something I have NEVER known him to do. He went out of his way to make sure that Buzzbee received a “Break a leg” message from him before he left for the show and the members of staff at his school assure me that they had played no part in facilitating his apparent spontaneity. It was in their words “It was his own idea. All we did was make sure he could get hold of Buzz in time”.

I can’t describe the joy on Buzz’s face while he was speaking to his brother and okay yes, tears were glistening in my eyes (and here I go again). To others this was ‘nothing’. It was small and insignificant and well, in their minds they would have expected him to have done anything different but Bumble and I know how ‘momentous’ this was for Waxy. He WANTED to reach out to his brother and wish him luck, he wasn’t make to do it because it was the right thing to do.

So this week I can safely say there have been so many ‘moments to cherish’ I have lost count but that doesn’t matter because they are all locked up safely in my mind and will be warming my heart for a long time to come.

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